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Hi guys and gals of the forum.  I am, as the thread title states, totally bummed out.  I've been like this for about 2 weeks and it has gotten so bad that i didn't even get out of bed Sunday night thru Monday night.  I knowwhat's going on and between finalizing the divorce, getting very rudely dumped and realizing that the same thing that is being done to me right now is stuff that i did to my husband, its just depressing.  I wasn't reared Catholic but i have a major guilt trip about some things.  I have told myself not to dwell on the past but that only works so long.  Everynight at work i break down at my desk and its just embarassing.  I don't want to go on anti-depressants as they are very trendy at the moment, but i'm thinking i need too.  I don't care if my husband is on here and reads this, he already knows somethings wrong.  I could use some prayers to help me figure out what is going on and how to properly deal with it.  I'm not suicidal or anything like that.  I like myself entirely too much to anything stupid like that but i do have serious rage issues right now.  I need to learn to control them but like i said, my defenses crumble after a few hours.  Thanks for your help and support.  This forum is awesome. 



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Lynn....I'm sorry you're having to go through all this but, you're a strong woman and I know you'll figure it out.  I'm not a betting person but, if I were, my money would be on you.  These things take time and, as you know, it's not easy.  Your life is changing.  You know, if there's one thing we can count on it's 'change'.  It's inevitable.  We just have to learn how to change with all that is changing around us.....plus deal with our emotions.

I'm going to send you an email.  I tend to get a little 'wordy' sometimes......lol

You can do it.......Many prayers & blessisngs are coming your way....



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Hey Lymbis. I am so sorry you have to go through  this and I will keep you in my prayers.

Please know that anti depressants are not a bad thing. I have been on them for 12 years now. They are becoming trendy because people now can't cope with everything. Unfortunately life just get crazy for most.  You don't have to take them forever like me. You can give them a try while your going through this. Take something for 6 months or so and then see how you are doing.    Welbutrin works well.  If you do decide to start taking some please try to stay away from all these new drugs.  They just through them out on the market and let everyone be a Ginny pig. Take something that has been around for aw



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Ok...The expert on divorces here...and bringing you hopefully some hope for a brighter future.
Is this your first? cause if it is...the first one is always the hardest. I am not hoping you go through many divorces..lol Oh heck no! I don't wish that on anyone. But I did and they were all jerks!

You will feel guilt...this is because he has throw this at you for so long that now it's really sinking in....don't let it.
You have got to believe that everything happens for a reason...even if it's a sad sitution..it does.
I personally would stay away from the antidpressants, as I feel it's not the right way out. Sometimes we have to face our hurts head-on and dealing with them as they are dealt.
Things happen and sometimes they are out of our control...but I don't want you to feel guilty about nothing.
Here's what you need to do...get a piece of paper and at the top of the page on the left...write "Pros" and on the left write "Cons".
Write down on the left side all the good reasons why you made this decision, and on the right, write down all the wrong reasons you made this decision...I can say that the Pros outweighs the cons.
Do not let yourself fall into a depression...as this is what "He" wants you to do. He wants you to hurt so he can gain power over it. Don't let this happen!
Start doing things in your life that are positive...go out with friends, go to places and visit people who will give you positive feedback. Don't be afraid to talk about it with your friends...this is how you get things off your chest and start to heal.
You need a support group of friends to be your backbone when you can't stand alone. Of course you have all of us who are wanting to stand by your side through this entire ordeal...this forum family is here for you! But we are just on the internet and not there in person...you need to receive physical hugs as well.
Your mind is a powerful tool..and you can actually scare yourself into depression if you let it. Don't! start hanging with positive feedback...as I discribed above. Get out of the house and take a trip..go visit..go for a nature walk to clear your head...anything that gives you positive feelings and makes you smile.
You can do this and you know you can...it's all with in your power to succeed.
But in the meantime...you are always in my thoughts and prayers...hang in there girl! you can do it!

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Thinking of you hon will send you  an email....

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